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OMing and Ahhing with Brighton Buddhist Centre

Early last year, Brighton Buddhist Centre set up a Gender & Sexual Diversity Group (GSDG), aimed at “LGBTQ+ people new to meditation and those with an established meditation practice”.

The group came on the back of an existing GBTQ+ Group for men, which was previously led by Amalabandhu, who now works with the new group. He explains the evolution of the two.

“The GBT Group started because, as a gay man and having friends, it was an opportunity to meet at the Buddhist Centre and practice together and talk about Buddhism and create a safe space to do that.

“As time went by, I was noticing that some people were saying that’s quite binary and how about doing something more inclusive. About a year ago I was having coffee with a friend who is more gender fluid, non-binary identifying, and I said ‘how about we start a new group?’, which we did, acknowledging that the other group was binary and we needed something more inclusive.”

While there is nothing in the teachings of the Buddha that “segregates or discriminates or would indicate that people were not welcome, so as a path and spiritual practice it is absolutely inclusive”, Amalabandhu recognises that not everybody necessarily knows that. So the point of the groups was to invite people in so they could then experience the wider Buddhist community.

GSDG was initially run as on online meeting due to the pandemic, and now meets both in person at the Centre in Tichborne Street and online. Since its February 2021 inception around 85 people have joined the mailing list.

And Amalabandhu says he has personally learned a lot from the group. “One of the things I’ve noticed and really appreciated is that it tends to be a younger population that are drawn to it, possibly because the language has changed.

“Younger people are using language that’s evolving. For example, my generation struggled with the word ‘queer’ and now that’s something that people are using, and I’ve become more comfortable with it and quite enjoy it as a term because it feels like it’s all-embracing. I’m learning a lot [from the group]. I’m learning a lot about people, about differences and diversity. It’s lovely to meet amazing people.

“Ever since we stated the group, for the first few months we introduced people [as they joined] and they told their life stories, what they’d been through to get to that point, and it’s very moving to be able to tell those life stories and
be heard by people who are very receptive and appreciate that safe space.”

There has been much talk of the effects the pandemic has had on people’s mental and physical health, so was there a correlation between that and the interest in meditation?

Amalabandhu says: “The pandemic has had an impact for us in different ways and I think one of those has been to look at what’s out there in terms of what supports people’s wellbeing.

“It can be that people are interested in Buddhist meditation from a secular perspective. They know that mindfulness practice and meditation have a positive effect on mental health, and it can be that people have a curiosity about Buddhism that maybe has been sitting with them for some time but the pandemic has brought things forward.

“People are seeking things out because they may be struggling with their mental health, or they want connection and these meetings are very much about enabling people to have connection and support when they might feel quite isolated and disconnected from a spiritual community or like-minded people.”

As to what benefits Buddhist meditation can offer, it is calming and develops awareness of mindfulness, which Amalabandhu says has positive effects on both cognitive and physical wellbeing, as ”mindfulness is very much related to physical health”.

Alongside meditation classes, the Brighton Buddhist Centre offers a range of related services, such as yoga and study groups.

The Brighton Buddhist Centre is part of the Triratna Buddhist community, which was started in the UK in 1967 but draws from different and ancient traditions.

Amalabandhu explains: “Our practice is very much focused on the altruistic – transforming self and the world. It’s about our own evolution and transformation but also about supporting the world around us. We are not monastic, we are ordained but we are in the world, in the community. We have regular jobs, regular families, regular lifestyles.”

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Standing Up To The Odds

For 26 years Andi Derrick worked in the film industry as an Emmy award-winning foley artist (creating sound for film and TV). From the Harry Potter and Bond movies to The Crown and Peaky Blinders, Andi has created countless sounds for countless movies.

Today, Andi couldn’t be further from the insular world of making sound magic in dark studios – she is now a Stand-Up Paddleboard (SUP) instructor, running her own business, Glo Wellbeing, from Goring beach, at the Sea Lane Cafe near Worthing.

It’s a massive life change – and was brought on by an apocalyptic event. Eight years ago, after three misdiagnoses, Andi was told she had stage three endometrial cancer. Two weeks later, the diagnosis was of stage four. “I was told I was having palliative chemotherapy and there was nothing the doctors could do for me.”

So she started looking into alternative treatments that might help, from Chinese herbs to Jin Shin Jyutsu (an ancient Japanese healing art), and all things spiritual. She also found herself going back to the water again and
again.

“As a foley artist I was in studios for 26 years – dark, dusty, dirty, brilliant places for creativity, but not really good for my health.

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“After the first lot of chemo I went to a Greek island and I started to feel much better. I was in the sea all the time and I’d really missed it. The second time I went, in 2015, there was a great woman called Catherine who had a
paddleboard, something I’d never seen before. She said, ‘jump on girl, off you go’. So I got on and off I went. I paddled for an hour and when I came back, I went: ‘Oh my god, I need more, that’s changed my life.”

Returning home, Andi treated herself to a Red brand 10ft 6in paddleboard and took to the water as often as she could, meeting fellow paddleboarders, among them Mark Beadle, who would become her business partner.

“I was getting myself back to a really good place, feeling stronger than I had for years. I found myself thinking about my future again, that maybe I’ve got a life to live after all.”

So she and Mark set up Glo Wellbeing. “It was my calling, a new personal passion centred on my wellbeing, and I started to let the foley go.

“In 2016 I took a leap of faith, contacted the council, and asked if I could have a postage stamp-sized spot on the beach where I could hire boards and teach paddleboarding.”

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It turned out the council had just decided to designate a spot for that very activity and there were just 24 hours left to get a pitch in. “I sat down, gave the application my best shot, and crossed my fingers.”

Two weeks later she got the call that cemented the deal. Both Andi and Mark by then had achieved their BSUPA qualifications, so “we just ran with it and now, four years later, it has really taken off”.

In 2017, baffled doctors told Andi her cancer had gone. “Then six months later I had another CT scan and my oncologist said: ’It’s a miracle. You are good to go’. I was clear, not even in remission.”

I attributed my recovery in part to my diet, which I changed considerably – no sugar, no meat, no dairy. And, of course, there was the Chinese medicine, Jin Shin Jyutsu, and me sitting down with myself and letting go of negative baggage I no longer needed to carry.

“I changed my lifestyle – I was always a glass half-full girl, I didn’t have to work on that, but god I had to dig deep.”

Next May it will be nine years since her diagnosis.

Mark left Glo Wellbeing after three years to concentrate on his main business that was now expanding, but Andi is now “about to go into what will be the fifth year of Glo Wellbeing, with her small and growing business, encompassing river trips, retreats, European breaks, and yoga.

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So, aside from the fact it improves balance as well as core, leg and arm strength, what is it about paddleboarding that is so magnetic?

A lot of it is about being in the ‘now’. “When you go out on that water you can’t think about anything else, you’ve got to be focused on where you are. This is a great way to rebalance and recentre. As you get better and your confidence grows, you can go up a notch and start paddlesurfing, SUP racing, which is brilliant. The sea offers you loads of options.”

Andi herself has recently taken up wing surfing.

“On the river it’s tranquil. It’s all about nature, seeing that little bit of land, wildlife and water from a different perspective that we never get a chance to see in a car or walking. It is so uplifting and magical, the mental wellbeing is massive. What’s not to love?”

As long as they can swim, anyone can do it, which is why the SUP community is so big. And it’s also a great space for LGBTQ+ people, as it’s a wonderful way of meeting people and making new friendship, says Andi.

“These two communities have no boundaries, so they merge together beautifully. We all face challenges in this world and as a gay woman I know only too well some of the difficulties we may face. One of the great things about SUP and the SUP community is that we leave our problems behind. As soon as you hit the water you are transported into a different world, a supportive community that doesn’t give a hoot what you are, where you’re from, what colour you are or what your sexuality is. It’s a win-win.

“It’s a great place to build confidence too. I’ve met people who don’t think they can do it, then they come off the water and punch the air and say ‘what’s next?’. Suddenly their lives have opened up just from that one lesson. It’s given them confidence because they didn’t think they could do it and they did it, so now they’re going to go rock climbing!

“Now I’ve fallen in love with wing surfing. I don’t think I’ve ever been as strong and fit as I am at the age of 58. One day I’d like to teach wing – why not?!”

For more info on Glo Wellbeing CLICK HERE

Trans woman. Fitness trainer. Advocate for the LGBTQ+ community

Liz Ridgway talks to Jaq Bayles about her journey to trans woman, fitness trainer and advocate for the LGBTQ+ community

From stage manager for theatre and music, to ‘tart with a cart’ in Qantas First and Business-Class long-haul, to retail, to running her own business as a personal trainer, Liz Ridgway has seen her fair share of transformations over the years – not least being her own transition.

Armed with a wealth of knowledge garnered in various sports as well as gym work, Liz is now on a mission to empower more people with the physiological, mental health and social benefits of staying fit, with a particular focus on trans and non-binary people as well as the wider LGBTQ+ community and women.

Currently working as a PT at The Gym Group’s Madeira Drive outlet, she also has a healthy online presence, saying: “There are very few trans PTs in the UK or around the world, so I have to be accessible for clients as they aren’t just based here. They are in London and around the country – I even have some clients overseas.

“I spent all that time in gyms and people were saying: ‘Liz, you know so much. Why, don’t you take this to other people and help them to be knowledgeable and confident in a gym?’ Particularly for women and trans people, gyms are pretty intimidating places to go. I had this background experience and was confident in a gym and there’s the fact that I am trans, which is a little bit odd, but there was an opportunity for me to help trans and non-binary people, LGBTQ+ women and cis women be a little more confident.”

The face of gyms has been slowly but surely changing in recent years, and Liz has been one of the architects of that change at The Gym Group, which has some 1,600 employees and 120 sites around the country.

“I have experienced a lot of harassment, particularly in retail where I worked behind the counter and on the shop floor, but The Gym Group at Madeira Drive is really inclusive, super-queer – a very large percentage of members are LGBTQ+.” But she has been doing a lot of work strengthening that diversity and inclusion.

“We have had a number of different streams around gender and disability and LGBTQ+. The organisation has been really keen to move forward and make the place more welcoming for those groups of people and trying to move away from this hyper-heteronormative, masculine behaviour that we see so often in gyms.

“When we first talked about how we could be more welcoming, we were really open as an organisation that we weren’t inclusive enough, particularly for trans and non-binary people, but more widely for the LGBTQ+ community, so we discussed some objectives we could work towards to demonstrate a visibly welcoming nature.

Photo by Nick Ford Photography

“During Trans Awareness Week we launched a trans inclusion policy for employees and members; I also wrote tips for the company intranet on how to be great trans allies.

“We are really opening up and looking at the ways not just LGBTQ+ people but older people, non-white people can feel more welcome and included.

“I feel really good about using my experience as a trans woman in this way. It’s wonderful to see – despite what we are shown in the media – a lot of organisations are keen to be more trans aware. I’m honoured to be asked to work on that kind of stuff.”

It’s been a personal journey for Liz, who is originally from Adelaide, Australia, and came to the UK in 1996 “for a holiday, and 25 years later I’m still here”. She spent a good few years working in the arts at London’s Barbican, although she always played sports alongside that, which, she admits, “is an odd mix really, having sport included with the arts, but I’ve always been a bit of a fitness bunny”.

Getting to the point where she needed “a bit of change”, she spent seven years flying round the world with Qantas “at the pointy end of the plane”. This coincided with her sister being ill, and meant she could return to Australia “a couple of times a year as opposed to once every five years”.

Liz Ridgway. Photo by Nick Ford Photography

Liz picks up the story from when her sister sadly died: “I was in the middle of my transition so I came away from that and started in health and fitness and a bit of retail to help support my business and growth, and gained my qualification as a personal trainer.”

Her transition started around 2007 and when she I felt she was towards the end, “which came with a medical transition”, she got to a new point in life.

“I thought I could live a little bit more authentically, so it was the choice to move to Brighton. I wanted to be by the seaside with a smaller community. I moved here in 2017 and that’s where I slowly started my business.”

Working in Marks & Spencer to support herself, she also joined a men’s Australian football team, which had another couple of women players, and between them they decided to start a women’s team. “Thus we birthed the Sussex Swans women’s team,” says Liz. “In 2017 there were just one or two of us, now we have a squad of about 35 women and this year have been competing against all the teams up in London.

“It’s just so rewarding to see spaces for women to play sport and that’s probably what I’m most proud about,” says Liz, who was recently presented by the club with a lifetime membership. “I feel proud that I’ve been able to make space for women to play sport, made a big contribution to keeping the club going and then handing over to other people as my body becomes a bit older and tireder and recovers from injuries a bit slower.”

Photo by Nick Ford Photography

But she’s not about to slow down personally and it’s her mission to support others on their own fitness journey. So what is that her clients ask of her?

“It depends on the individual, but generally people want to feel better about themselves and their bodies, particularly after the last couple of years. Some of my clients want to make changes to their body, so it’s about strength and conditioning, toning. Other people want nutritional advice about how to manage stages in their life.

“Generally they are looking for someone to hold their hand, help them feel more confident, create space for themselves and impart some knowledge about how to train their body and live more holistically.

“It’s not just about lifting weights but things we can do to improve our flexibility, central nervous system, neural pathways. It’s fascinating what happens to the body when we start moving. It’s a combination of muscle building, strength building, some weight loss, body transformation and the mental health aspect. I teach people how to find their wings and off they go.”

The online side of her business has been something of a revelation. Like many people she was forced during lockdown to make changes to her life and, along with a group of like-minded trans people during the early days of lockdown, started doing some Instagram live broadcasts across the world.

“We thought that if others saw a few dozen trans people congregating and talking about their experiences of lockdown and so forth, surely we could make a difference.”

This led to Trans Can Sport asking her to do some online classes, “and that brought me from zero to heroine.”

She continues: “I decided I wanted to give more opportunities to people who weren’t working and I just knew that being able to move your body at home would be beneficial in some way. I put together three of four different programmes on a website and reached out to trans, non-binary, non-trans women and the LGBTQ+ community. During lockdown I was doing about eight classes a week.

“It was on the basis it was going to be free or pay as you can, which is a wonderful thing about our community – we do these kind of things, pay as you can or pay it forward. It was a really great experience despite all the difficulties and being locked up. That pushed me into online.

Liz Ridgway. Photo by Nick Ford Photography

“There’s a certain amount of privilege around being non-trans because you can access spaces easily, travel easily and in the current climate, which feels quite hostile to trans and non-binary people, I know much of the community are hiding away. Being able to reach out via this kind of format is vital in some ways.”

New Year is one of the busiest times in the fitness industry, but how many people actually keep up their resolve into the spring?

“A lot of people do fall off their journey but I always talk about making incremental changes as opposed to popping a mountain in front of yourself, putting your backpack on and starting off on the trek. If you can break down those massive changes you’ve decided to take, successful long-term change is more accessible.”

Liz’s own goals for 2022 include being involved in a Pride again and getting back to being a DJ. “The last gig I played was the closing night party of Trans Pride 2019. It was a wonderful moment, kind of a dream.”

For more info, follow Liz on INSTAGRAM or CLICK HERE.

Thanks to Platform Fitness Studio for the use of the studio

Photography by Nick Ford Photography.

 

Eastern Flavours Band raises cash for Rainbow Fund

Aneesa Chaudhry has donated to the Brighton Rainbow Fund £60 raised from her Eastern Flavours Band concert at The Brunswick Pub on December 5.

Chris Gull, Chair of The Brighton Rainbow Fund, said: “Thank you so much to Aneesa for raising these funds. This is another example of how our local community of talented performers contribute to the benefit of others. It’s much appreciated.”
For more information about Aneesa Chaudhry check out her website.

Big Give Christmas Challenge 2021

FareShare Sussex is taking part in Christmas Challenge 2021 to raise £10,000 in one week. These funds will be used to provide 40,000 meals for people in need.

The organisation says: “It will make a real difference at this time of year when so many people can’t afford to eat. It will also prevent 12 tonnes of food from going to waste, saving the environment from carbon emissions.”

Donations to FareShare Sussex will be matched by their pledgers and Big Give champion, the Lake House Charitable Foundation, during the campaign.

Anna Montanari, fundraising & communications manager at FareShare Sussex, said: “This year we’re looking to raise a total of £10,000. In order to access the £10,000 we have in the matching pot, we need to raise £5,000 in online donations.

“We hope everyone will give generously this Christmas to help us reach our target and enable us to fight food poverty and tackle food waste.“

To get involved:

Visit the Big Give and make a donation. The campaign will close at 12 pm on Tuesday, December 7.

HIV Allies project launched by University Hospitals Sussex

Today, World AIDS Day 2021, University Hospitals Sussex NHS Foundation Trust is launching an ‘HIV Allies’ project to become a stigma-free hospital Trust.

While, 40 years after the start of the HIV pandemic, the organisation says it is now within reach to end all new HIV infections in Sussex by the year 2030, “achieving zero HIV-associated discrimination and stigma remains a significant challenge”.

The Trust continued: “In 2017, 31% of a sample of people living with HIV in the south east were worried that they were treated differently from other patients in healthcare settings.” The HIV Allies project is one initiative to address these concerns.

Eileen Nixon, consultant nurse at UHSussex, said: “There are serious health consequences if patients avoid treatment or decline HIV testing due to fears of stigma and discrimination in healthcare. We are proud to be leading on several stigma-reducing projects across our hospitals and the local health economy.

“This includes championing colleagues to come forward as HIV Allies and work with us to help create a safe space for people living with and affected by HIV, and reduce experiences of HIV stigma in our hospitals.”

Dame Marianne Griffiths, chief executive, UHSussex, said: “As an HIV Ally, I am incredibly proud of the exceptional work my colleagues across the Trust have achieved in leading the way to zero new HIV transmissions and zero stigma and discrimination by 2030.

“Respect and compassion are two of our core values, and we are committed to ensuring that all our patients, regardless of their HIV status, are treated with the outstanding care that our hospitals are known for.”

Currently, across both Brighton & Hove and West Sussex, 99% of those diagnosed with HIV are receiving antiretroviral treatment and more than 98% of those have an undetectable viral load, which means they cannot pass the virus on.

The Trust says these successes are in part due to making testing readily accessible. Across Brighton & Hove, for example, a world-first Trust initiative, ‘HIV testing in the community’ has helped see a reduction in the proportion of new diagnoses that are recently acquired HIV infections from 33% in 2018 to 8% in 2021.

Martin Fisher Foundation vending machine launch at Jubilee Library

‘HIV testing in the community’, which was established by consultants from University Hospitals Sussex NHS Foundation Trust (UHSussex) in partnership with The Martin Fisher Foundation, uses a smart vending machine to dispense free HIV self-testing kits, giving a result in just 15 minutes from a single drop of blood.

Dr Amanda Clarke, HIV consultant at UHSussex said: “These machines are located in multiple venues across Brighton & Hove to make them accessible to everyone across the city. They also help to normalise HIV testing and reduce the proportion of individuals who remain unaware of their diagnosis; we really want everyone to know their HIV status.

“If people are aware of their HIV status, they can access the treatment they need – whether HIV treatment or HIV prevention, including Pre Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) if they are at risk of acquiring HIV. Moreover, someone living with HIV, who takes effective treatment cannot pass the virus on and can live a normal life.

“Our hospitals have been involved in hundreds of clinical trials throughout the years, and our patients have been amazing at putting themselves forward to participate in studies and help with the incredible advances we have seen in treatment and prevention in this field,” added Dr Clarke.

Dr Emma Rutland, an HIV and Sexual Health Consultant at UHSussex, who runs clinics across West Sussex, where some 750 patients are accessing treatment for HIV, said: “A joined up approach through the Sussex HIV Network has been instrumental to ensuring high-quality care for all people living with HIV, including a focus on living well with HIV. This collaborative way of working has undoubtedly contributed to improved outcomes for people living with HIV.”

 

 

For more information on PREP and how to access it on the NHS check out I Want PREP Now

Federation of Gay Games comes to Brighton

Brighton is to host the annual Federation of Gay Games (FGG) Annual General Assembly next week (November 8-12) as Covid travel restrictions forced a change of venue from Hong Kong, where the next Games are to be held in 2023, postponed from 2022.

Around 150 delegates are expected to attend – both in person and online – from the 26 participating countries, and a highlight will be the announcement at the Royal Pavilion on Thursday, November 11, of the host of the 2026 Games, with Guadalajara, Mexico; Munich, Germany; and Valencia, Spain all in the running.

Among events at the week-long Assembly will be a welcome to delegates on Sunday night by co-presidents of the FGG Joanie Evana and Sean Fitzgerald; David Chambers, general manager of Mercure Hotel; Sadie Mason, CEO of Active Sussex and GB Women’s Basketball Squad; and Rory Finn of Trans Can Sport. Wednesday sees the Memorial Moment at Dorset Gardens Methodist Church, honouring all those affiliated with the organisation who have been lost to AIDS and other illnesses. The Memorial Moment was founded in 1997 by a past board member, Brent Nicholson, who also founded the international Rainbow Memorial Fund.

Vice-president of external relations Shiv Paul, explains that Brighton was chosen to stand in for Hong Kong largely due to the work of FGG vice-president of operations Viv Woodcock-Downey, who lives in the city.

“It’s a very welcoming city to LGBTQ+ people and from a logistics perspective we had a very short time to get it together. Viv pretty much single-handedly organises the whole conference, so from that logistical perspective it was easier for her to arrange at the last minute. Also with those kinds of connections there are various organisations in Brighton & Hove that have been very supportive of us holding the conference there so have been very supportive and helpful.”

Each year at the Annual Conference the FGG also selects individuals or organisations that are doing great things for LGBTQ+ inclusion in the host city and this year its Excellence Award evening will be at the Amsterdam Kitchen & Bar on Wednesday November 10.

Burlesque Express

Big wigs, lavish costumes and plenty of skin in the game. Ebullient burlesque performer Violet Delights strips down the essence of the art for Jaq Bayles

Burlesque is a performance art form that, according to its most famous advocate Dita Von Teese in Burlesque and the Art of the Tease, has its origins in Ancient Greece as “bawdy satirical satire”, and was also popularised in the States where it was otherwise known as striptease.

Today it most commonly offers some sort of combination of satire or comedy, highly stylised character creations, song and dance and lavish costumes, which, of course, are most likely to be shed along the way.

And it’s growing in popularity, with burlesque nights established across the UK. But what attracts people to the notion of getting their kit off in front of an audience – something which is the stuff of actual nightmares for many – and why is it so attractive to queer audiences?

Violet Delights has been performing burlesque since 2019 when she joined the burlesque society at Nottingham Trent University with a view to taking it up as a hobby and meeting new people. But she got “bitten by the bug” and it’s become a much bigger part of her life.

So how did that tentative step into an unknown world evolve into a full-blown act?

“At first you think ‘I could never do that, I could never get on stage’ – then you want to do it all the time. I moved to London and the burlesque scene was so welcoming and I was able to develop my burlesque personality. I like to combine the traditional glamour elements of classic burlesque and incorporate the drag elements, then also put a bit of a comedy twist on it.

“I really enjoy exploring typically what you would expect from women and femininity and turning it on its head. There’s definitely a queer aesthetic to what I do. The drag aesthetic inspires a lot of what do – I wear a lot of big drag wigs.

“Before burlesque was what you’d expect it, as from Dita Von Teese – the glamour, the striptease – way before that it was very political and satirical and had a lot more to do with the queer community than you’d expect, and now it’s definitely going that way again.

“The cabaret scene generally is really so intertwined with the queer identity – cabaret sort of belongs to the queer community.”

Burlesque performers tend to adopt a variety of personas along with the costumes to fit (Violet doesn’t make her own costumes, preferring to “leave it to the professionals” but does do a lot of customising, particularly with rhinestones). Among her personas has been a ‘50s housewife, although she has shelved that one, so how does she decide what depictions of femininity to portray?

“I really enjoy exploring typically what you would expect from women and femininity and turning it on its head. There’s definitely a queer aesthetic to what I do.”

“Throughout my life I’ve found it quite hard to feel sexy or feminine and had a quite complicated relationship with my body where I didn’t really like it. I didn’t realise how much burlesque would change that. Burlesque is so good for making you appreciate every single body, including your own. So many of the massive names in burlesque don’t have the typical body you would see on TV or in magazines.”

My acts really celebrate female sexuality in all its forms. I have an Eve act, from Adam and Eve, looking at how a woman was blamed for something a man did and it’s sort of an FU to that basically, Eve reclaiming her sexuality and becoming the snake, becoming the sinner and not caring.”

Among new personas in the pipeline is an ode to the ’90s runway models who projected “such a powerful, strong personality”.

Violet adds: “I always try to find ways to explore femininity and sexuality in different ways in my act. I really enjoy looking at women in the sense they can be powerful, vulnerable, they can be demure, they can be innocent, they can be a siren – they can be all of that and more.”

A “typical” burlesque audience from Violet’s point of view is “people looking to have a good time and a lot of fun”. And many from the cabaret community can be always be found in the audience. “They always support each other, so you get burlesque dancers, pole dancers, drag queens. I’d say if you want to break it down to groups and their identities, it’s a lot of girls out with their friends, a lot of the queer community. The smallest portion would probably be straight men and they are usually just there supporting their girlfriends.

“Some shows are specifically for the queer community. There is one called Greedy just for bisexual performers – I think it’s a great turn on the name.”

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With drag having become so mainstream now, is burlesque going to go the same way?

“Burlesque ebbs and flows depending on what’s happening politically and socially in the world. It kind of goes underground and above ground in the same way that drag does really. In the 2000s it became bigger again and now it’s massive – nowhere near as celebrated as drag is at the moment, but at a lot of drag shows you’re likely to find burlesque too. You also get burlesque performers that are drag queens – it’s called draglesque and they are as much drag queen as they are burlesque performer. Some acts might do drag and not burlesque and some are really burlesquey – usually it’s a great blend of the two and it’s amazing.”

How would Violet define burlesque?

“Obviously it’s got its roots in the striptease element, but it’s really difficult to define because it sort of transcends all the categories of being a dancer or being a performer – it kind of blends everything. Depending on the kind of performer you are, you might do comedy and almost no dancing, you might perform with no stripping, or you might do just stripping and no dancing. Typically there’s an element of shedding garments.”

Does it cover all age ranges or is it mainly the preserve of younger performers?

“It does cover all ages and like anywhere in society you’re going to get ageism and ableism and that sort of thing. But there so many great areas of burlesque that have been carved out by older generations or disabled performers to really cater for them and make sure they’re seen. It’s a super-inclusive community. There’s a really great show in Hastings by Pupin Devert called the Solid-Gold Silver Show for performers over 50, and they are just as incredible if not more incredible then the younger performers because they might have been doing it for ages.”

For her day job, Violet works at Coco de Mer adult boutique – so is there a crossover with her love of burlesque and her work?

“Definitely. It’s my attitude towards sexuality and my own sex positivity. My opinion when it comes to sex is if you like it do it, if you don’t, don’t – as long as you’re not hurting anybody, go for it. My own attitude towards sex definitely informed me wanting to work at the store and I enjoyed taking control of their social media and putting that message out there on their behalf.

What sort of messages have you been putting out?

The company is very much for women by women and we are all about women owning their sexuality, so we recently had a collaboration with Helena Christensen, the ‘90s model. She’s a photographer these days and she’s now 50 years old and still looking as gorgeous as ever.

We wanted more older, middleaged representation in lingerie because you almost never see it. We got her to self-shoot a campaign to try to capture the ultimate female gaze. The messaging was about that and that women should be wearing lingerie for themselves over anyone else and owning their sexuality over anyone else. Your relationship with yourself is the one you’re going to have the longest.”

“I really enjoy looking at women in the sense they can be powerful, vulnerable, they can be demure, they can be innocent, they can be a siren – they can be all of that and more.”

What have been the biggest sellers recently?

“In the same way that bums are very big right now in body aspirations and in the media, so are anal toys. Plugs were very popular and over lockdown we saw a massive spike in vibrators and toys generally for women, so that was a big boom for us. I guess it’s not surprising when people can’t have casual sex any more they’re thinking ‘I’ll do it myself’.”

And finally, can anybody take up burlesque?

“When people find out I do burlesque – because you wouldn’t know it from knowing me in regular life as I’m fairly normal and unassuming looking – they are always excited and the first thing they say is ‘oh I want to do that, I wish I could do that’, and I just say go for it, why not? You can do online classes – in the pandemic they became quite popular, a stress-free way to get involved from the comfort of your own home. So yes, anybody can do it but not everyone would want to – it’s getting naked on stage, so it’s a lot of people’s worst fear.”

Violet Delights is appearing at Infinitease Burlesque (@infiniteaseburlesque) and Clandestine Cabaret  (@clandestinecabaretlondon).

You can find her online @itsvioletdelights on Instagram and Facebook.

Violet’s pick of LGBTQ+ burlesque shows to look out for:

• Dolly Trolley’s Cabaret Sauvignon, @dolleytrolley

• Bar Wotever, @barwot

• What’s Good Cabaret, @whatsgoodcabaret

• Cocoa Butter Club, @thecocoabutterclub

• Greedy (with bi performers), @greedycabaret

• Bitten Peach, @bittenpeachuk

• Shenanigans Cabaret, shenaniganscabaret@gmail.com

And her top Brighton-based shows are:

• Cabaret Lab, @cabaret-lab

• Showlesque, @Showlesque

• Proud Cabaret Brighton, @proudbrighton

What’s Cookin’?

Jaq Bayles meets Woody Cook, whose new media company aims to ‘give back’ and create a community

He’s been a familiar face to viewers of The Circle and Gogglebox, but Woody Cook is determined not to be a “one-trick pony, the guy who does all the shows”, turning down other offers of TV appearances in favour of concentrating on his record label/media company, Truth Tribe.

The son of Fatboy Slim (Norman Cook) and Zoe Ball has also been active in raising money for the Brighton Rainbow Fund, performing DJ sets in phone boxes during Pride week following his public coming out a few years ago as bi – and that has come with its own set of revelations.

“Suddenly my followers went up. I was looking at the ratios and it had been 50:50 men and women, but it went to 80% men, 20% women. I had nothing but positive responses, which is really refreshing. The only negative is guys sending me photos of feet. It’s a new thing – everyone suddenly really likes feet. I don’t understand it, it scares me. I had a message saying, ‘I really love you on Gogglebox, but next time can you take your socks off’. It’s weird.”

Weirdness aside, Woody does reveal that coming out initially at school he got bullied, and this was one of the reasons he wanted to get involved in a Pride event.

The outspoken 20-year-old says: “People are still afraid to come out to their parents. People go ‘Why are we still talking about Pride’ – because the journey’s not over. It’s the same with BLM, they are still battles that are being fought, people are still getting beaten up. Someone in Spain got killed the other day for being gay. It’s ridiculous. And because Pride in my home city wasn’t on, I was like, we need some pride, we need something to celebrate. It’s the heart and soul of Brighton, having a big party and love-in in the street. I wanted to give a little bit back. It’s the place that raised me and I am bisexual and want to see everyone being proud of themselves. I’d love to help out in any way I can.

“One of the first Prides I went to dad was getting ready to play and I said ‘Dad you’re not gay’, and he explained you don’t have to be gay, it’s about unity. I found out later he was playing for free because it was about to go under, they couldn’t find a headline act, they weren’t selling the tickets and he stepped in.

“I’m not trying to copy him but he set a good example,” says Woody, who admits he was a bit delayed in picking up the DJ decks because “obviously I didn’t want to be Fatboy Son”.

But now: “I know where I’m going in my life, it’s a stepping-stone on a longer journey. I don’t mind if people go ‘Oh it’s Fatboy Son’ or ‘lightning doesn’t strike twice’, because I’ve got stuff cooking that’s very unlike what my dad makes, all behind the scenes, it could take a couple of years to come out. I’m playing the long game.”

Woody is passionate about uniting people through his company, putting musicians together with other musicians and producers, to ensure they make the most of their talents, especially for his “lost generation”.

“Truth Tribe is about getting in touch with community events and giving back. So many people are lost – we’re the lost generation. Social media is making us all less social; my aim is to reunite as many people as possible. Everything we do in our society is dismantling community. We used to be on football teams, clubs, and there’s nothing anymore, everything is stripped back. We live in houses on our own, sometimes we don’t even talk to neighbours. We’re meant to be tribes, hence Truth Tribe. Western society has taught us this model and a lot of people who are depressed, the problem’s not with them it’s with the way we’re living.”

While he admits he spent most of his early adolescence playing video games, he’s always liked creating things – cardboard forts, a tree house in Ashdown Forest. He’d invite friends to the woods and while they wanted to sit around drinking he’d be “hammering, it was my Zen”.

He continues: “[My friends were saying] how do you build all this stuff with things you’ve found in skips? That’s my artwork, so hopefully in the next two or three years I’ll have my own festival, me and my friends running it and where I build it all myself.”

His festival will be called Gratitude in an obvious nod to Latitude, but also because he thinks “gratitude is one of the most important things in life. What we all missed in lockdown was just these little moments, seeing your mates, live music, hugging a stranger, these little moments that can make all the difference in your working week.”

He had originally planned the festival for this August, and is still hoping to do something this year, but “it won’t be in a field”.

He’s excited how trends return, with the ‘90s, his parents’ time, next on the list. “Peace and love in the ‘60s is coming back as well. We’re on the verge of a new age; I’m slap bang in the right moment to make a difference. I’ve got the perfect basis to build something that I think can make a difference.”

www.instagram.com/wearetruthtribe

Covid Report from Switchboard

A crucial Health & Inclusion Project by Switchboard has just been released. Jaq Bayles looks into the results

Brighton & Hove Switchboard has conducted a major survey into the impact of Covid-19 on LGBTQ+ people in Brighton & Hove, revealing high levels of depression and isolation, along with drug and alcohol issues.

But it also showed a great deal of resilience and support within the community, highlighting how important peer groups and safe spaces are for people who already face inequalities in wider society.

Jane Woodhull, Switchboard’s LGBTQ+ engagement officer, is the architect of the Health & Inclusion Report, and says the stories of some of the 595 respondents to the 26 questions posed often made for tough reading.

“I asked a lot of open questions encouraging narrative and what I got was loads of people’s stories, which was hard reading sometimes, but what’s depressing is actually that we’ve got this data nationally. I guess it only said what we knew already, so the critical thing for me now is to translate that into some kind of action or influence.

“It has to have an impact, and if you think that this is the case in Brighton where theoretically we are the European gay capital, can you imagine what life is like for a young person in mid-Wales?”

The main findings of the report are:

• 74% of respondents felt depressed, with 68% of 18-24 year olds and 41% of people of colour considering suicide;

• 60% of those under 24 and 40% of trans and/or non-binary people were living in an unsafe living situation;

• 68% of LGBTQ+ people felt lonely or isolated.

But, on the plus side:

• 35% paid closer attention to their mental health;

• 34% spent more quality time with their household.

Switchboard was commissioned by Brighton & Hove City Council and Brighton & Hove Clinical Commissioning Group (CCG) to explore the impact of the pandemic on LGBTQ+ communities in order to inform and influence priorities in the ‘recovery period’ and the survey was followed by focus groups exploring issues more in-depth.

These revealed that the main areas needing action were:

• Increased access to timely LGBTQ affirmative mental health support;

• Access to safe housing for those in insecure living situations experiencing homo, bi, transphobia and domestic abuse;

• Access to improved healthcare for trans and/ or non-binary people;

• Support and creativity around LGBTQ+ specific social spaces recognising their protective factor in people’s health and wellbeing;

• Access to LGBTQ+ affirmative support around grief, relationships, ageing and disability.

The priority now is to address the concerns presented by the report and try to find ways of responding positively to the needs that have become apparent, and Jane is presenting the report to councillors, commissioners, service users and engagement groups on August 5, hoping some action will follow on.

“I am also going to organise some events with commissioners and Brighton & Hove City Council and invite people from LGBTQ+ communities to come to discuss the issues in more detail and jointly find solutions.” She is looking for members of LGBTQ+ communities to help with this and asking people to contact her if they are interested in taking part. She is aware there are going to be “no quick fixes”.

To contact Jane (Monday-Thursday), email: jane.woodhull@switchboard.org.uk or telephone 07743734254.

An early response to the report came from Jane Lodge, associate director of public involvement at Sussex Clinical Commissioning Groups: “The impact of Covid-19 on the mental health of members of LGBTQ+ communities, as outlined by this excellent report, is stark.

We will be working in partnership with LGBTQ+ voluntary and community sector organisations and providers of mental health services to ensure they are aware of, and act on, this report. We will also continue to liaise with Switchboard to continue to understand experience, and to develop and maintain effective ways to support the mental health and wider wellbeing needs of these communities.”

From Jane Woodhull’s point of view, housing is a main priority, and probably the one that will be toughest to tackle: “The impact of Covid put a lot of, particularly young, people back into transphobic, biphobic or homophobic homes.

They were back in the closet, so some of the narrative, the experiences that young people in particular have had is really sad and we know that people within LGBTQ in social housing often stay in the closet, hide away in their bedrooms because there’s a workman coming in or whatever. So housing is a big issue.

“I want to raise awareness and perhaps do a housing conference. If you look at Tonic housing in London, it’s got the first LGBTQ older people’s home, so maybe we could get some learning from there. But the housing department is so overwrought at the moment I suspect it will be really difficult to engage them because they are just snowed under.” Trans health was another area that was highlighted. “Across the demographic, whoever people were in the communities, concern was raised for trans people, particularly with the press and all the anti-trans stuff that’s around at the moment. A lot of people were saying ‘I’m really worried about the trans/non-binary community’.”

Mental health too was, unsurprisingly, a key concern, even when it comes to in-patient facilities. Jane recounts the story of one trans respondent who explained that they had to be sent to a mental health hospital miles away “because it was the only one that had dual-gender toilets and obviously they were with other seriously ill people who were transphobic”.

“So it’s about winning people’s hearts and minds and telling stories,” says Jane. “People are very willing to listen to what we’ve got to say and some of the stats are undeniable and are backed up by other studies. There’s so much compelling evidence.”

One perhaps surprising revelation from the survey is that only 8% of respondents had contacted an LGBTQ+ charity for help during the pandemic. Many people worried the charities were needed for those worse off than themselves, or did not know about them. This leads Jane to think any assumption that everyone sees themselves as part of the LGBTQ+ communities isn’t really the case, and there’s a need for more safe spaces – such as the new Ledward Centre – where people can congregate with their peers.

But to get a deeper understanding of what is really needed, Jane is a fan of the experiencebased approach, citing the example of putting professionals and potential service users together to discuss the issues.

As an ex-nurse this is an area she has much experience in. “We would gather patients and healthcare professionals in a room together. The health professionals would say ‘we really need this, it’s really important for lung cancer patients that we have this’, then the lung cancer patients would say ‘I’m not bothered about that, why are you making such a fuss about that?’.

“A good example is that I worked with quite a bolshy member of staff for who everything was problematic, but from that meeting she suddenly said why don’t I give up half my office for people to go to when they’ve had a diagnosis? So when you get people working in partnership rather than saying ‘this is what needs to be done’, that’s where I want to come from – getting people together to problem solve.”

But it’s worth remembering the positives that the report has revealed too, and Switchboard chief executive Jacob Bayliss highlights that element: “Brighton & Hove has one of the largest LGBTQ+ populations in Europe. For many of those who live and work here this is a point of pride. As a city we often lead the way when it comes to improving outcomes for these communities – despite this we still find stark inequalities that need urgent attention. Among all of the challenges, we came away from our consultation feeling inspired by the overwhelming evidence that our community is kind and resilient, and brimming with creative solutions to difficult problems. We have a once-in-a-lifetime chance to emerge stronger from the pandemic and as we start to shape our city for the future, this report gives us a way to advocate for LGBTQ+ people in that future.”

For a PDF of the report, visit: www. switchboard.org.uk/wp-content/ uploads/2021/07/Covid-19-Report.pdf

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