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HOME – a new inclusive service of worship

Fr. Philip Ritchie explains why you will feel at HOME in All Saints Church, on the corner of The Drive and Eaton Road in Hove, and invites couples to reaffirm their marriage promises on Valentine’s Day.

Home

LAST OCTOBER we started a new informal worship service at All Saints in Hove called ‘HOME’. The word ‘inclusive’ is heavily overused but we wanted to put together a service where all members of the community would feel welcomed, affirmed and celebrated.

At HOME we always begin by welcoming everybody, including members of the LGBTI community.  The service itself is informal, which is a new departure for All Saints. Our ‘traditional service’ is equally welcoming but we felt we needed to develop a service which actively affirmed the diversity of our local community.

HOME begins at 11.45 a.m. on Sundays in the side chapel of this vast church.  It’s a mix of contemporary praise songs, hymns, prayers and a talk.  We also include a ‘witness’ spot where we get to hear a bit more about people’s individual journeys.  Often it’s the struggles in people’s lives and how they cope with them that are most touching and revealing.

We want HOME to be a place where people are able to share how they feel about life, about God and about the Church.  People often struggle, particularly with the institution of the Church, and can be surprised to hear that it is a struggle we share.  Feeling like a square peg in a round hole is for me a common experience of life in the church so I really value being able to sing, pray and talk alongside others who have similar experiences.

We want HOME to build on the work already going on at All Saints with young people in our youth club, with young families in Messy Church, with the homeless and vulnerably housed at the Night Shelter, and at our monthly free Sunday lunch.

Initially we drew some of our ideas from a wonderful church in San Francisco called Glide Memorial Church.  They call themselves ‘A radically inclusive, just and loving church’ and they even have a ‘Drag Show Fundraiser’ in the Spring.  I know some people might think it slightly mad bringing a little bit of San Francisco to Hove, but why not?

We’re not a big community – we get between 30 and 50 people coming along – but to me it does feel like an inclusive, loving and generous community.  I guess All Saints can be seen as quite a traditional church community but some of us wanted to take a step outside of trad church and see if we could just pray, sing and talk together in love, and be a community where the labels and the cultural baggage people give us can be left at the door.

‘Celebrating Love’ @HOME

This Valentine’s weekend we are inviting couples (LGBTI/Straight) to come and reaffirm the promises that they made to each other at their wedding or Civil Partnership ceremonies.  We wanted to have an opportunity to celebrate all relationships and the many blessings that people have given each other.

We hope that people will feel able to come and join us. If you are able to come email: philipsj68@gmail.com.  People are welcome to come along at any time.

At our service we say that everybody is welcome, we don’t want you to check your baggage at the door… we don’t want you to dress a certain way, look a certain way… be a certain way. This is a come-as-you-are party!  We feel that we have ‘caught’ some of our joy and inclusivity from the LGBTI community, that the LGBTI community is a gift not only to the City but to the Church.

Here at All Saints we say there are no strangers – just brothers and sisters who are meeting for the first time.

Welcome home.

Phil Ritchie, Vicar, All Saints, Hove.

Have your say on parking in new developments

Residents are being asked to have their say on the amount of parking that should be included in new developments across the city.

Brighton & Hove CouncilBrighton and Hove City Council is drawing up new guidance on the provision of all types of parking in new developments, and wants to hear the views of residents, visitors, developers, and other interested parties.

Consultation on the Parking Standards Supplementary Planning Document (SPD) opened yesterday (February 13) and will continue until March 27.

To view a copy of the draft Parking Standards SPD and read more background, click here:

Copies are also available in Jubilee Library, Hove Library, Hove Town Hall customer service centre in Norton Road and Bartholomew House customer services centre in Bartholomew Square.

Copies can also be requested by calling the council’s transport policy and strategy team on 01273 292368.

Comments can be emailed to local.transport@brighton-hove.gov.uk or submitted in writing to Brighton and Hove City Council, Transport Policy and Strategy, Room 400, Kings House, Grand Avenue, Hove, BN3 2LS.

The results of the consultation will be considered by members of the council’s Economic Development and Culture Committee at a future meeting before a final decision is taken on the parking standards. Once agreed, the standards will be taken into account when planning applications are considered.

Cllr Geoffrey Bowden
Cllr Geoffrey Bowden

Councillor Geoffrey Bowden, chair of the Economic Development and Culture committee, said: “This is an opportunity for people to give us their views on the provision of parking for all types of vehicles and bicycles in new developments in the city, and we would encourage everyone interested to take part in the consultation.”

The consultation runs until 5 p.m. on March 27.

Kiss-in protest launches ‘Freedom to Kiss’ campaign at Eros

Britain’s first ever Valentine’s Day public kiss-in took place today on the steps of the Eros statue, Piccadilly Circus in London, launching Pride in London’s campaign for freedom to kiss in public – whatever your sexuality.

Pride in London

THE public kiss-in protest was held in response to new research conducted by Pride in London, showing that 54% of same sex couples would not feel completely comfortable kissing in public.

The research was carried out following a growing number of cases reported in the media where same-sex couples have been subjected to homophobic abuse for showing affection in a public place.

Over 1000 people responded to the survey, which asked participants whether they’d be completely comfortable kissing an LGBT partner in the public.  Over half (54%) said that they would not, and even though 46% said they would be, only one third of that group had never had any issues with homophobic responses in the past.

The fear of negative attention looms large in the mind of respondents; 86% of those who would be uncomfortable cited fear as an issue saying that they were frightened of negative attention in the form of name-calling or physical violence.

Bronac Mcneill who took part in the kiss-in protest, said: “We all now enjoy more legal equality than ever before, but we are seeing an increasing number of same-sex couples be subjected to homophobic behaviour and discrimination for expressing affection to their partners in public. Now, more than ever before, we need more LGBT+ heroes, including our straight allies, to stand beside us and show why the right to kiss our partners in public – whatever their gender – is a freedom we should all enjoy.”

The event officially marks the launch of the Heroes theme for Pride in London’s 2015 parade, which takes place this year in central London on June 27. Members and spectators of the parade will be encouraged to celebrate our LGBT’s heroes that have championed – or continue to champion equality and our freedom to be ourselves.

WEB.200Michael Salter, Chairman of Pride in London, said: “Last year we saw a record breaking Pride in London as hundreds of thousands of people rallied together to celebrate the city’s diversity and call for greater equality. This year, we are calling for participants in the Pride Parade to celebrate the heroes in their lives who have encouraged them to be themselves and have championed the LGBT rights and the freedoms that we enjoy today and others that still need to be fought for like the freedom to show affection in public in the same way as anybody else.”

#FreedomTo kiss, forms part of Pride in London’s greater award-winning FreedomTo campaign which launched last year and resulted in the biggest Pride event the capital had ever seen, with Stephen Fry, Kylie Minogue, Conchita Wurst, Tom Daley and David Cameron all taking part.

David Walliams and Russell Brand as well as Susan Calman and her partner have already submitted kissing selfies online.

Since going live in January, the #FreedomTo kiss campaign has encouraged thousands of people across the capital and the country to kiss their loved one in public, take a photo and post it on social media, tagging #FreedomTo kiss.

Hundreds of #FreedomTo kiss selfies were displayed live on the Piccadilly Circus display screens, via Pride in London’s social channels and courtesy of Clear Channel.

For more details and to see selfies, click here:

 

Kemptown MP marks V-Day

Simon Kirby MP has marked V-Day, February 14, by praising action to tackle violence against women and girls.

Simon Kirby MP for Brighton Kemptown & Peacehaven
Simon Kirby MP for Brighton Kemptown & Peacehaven

V-DAY aims to raise awareness of violence against women and girls in the UK and across the world, and to call for more action to be done to tackle it.

The UK leads the world in working on this through action to end sexual violence in conflict, through tackling violence against women and girls in humanitarian emergencies and in showing support for the Africa-led movement to end FGM.

There has been considerable work done on this in the UK, through the criminalisation of forced marriages, the introduction of stalking offences and new Domestic Violence Protection Orders to protect victims of domestic violence.

Work is also being done to make sure that violence against women and girls can become something of the past.

Mr Kirby said: “I am so proud of the work that the UK is doing on this very important matter, and how we are combatting violence against women and girls in the UK and across the rest of the world.

“Whilst this progress is most welcome, there is still much more that needs to be done to end this unacceptable violence, and I hope that today will raise awareness of this very important matter.”

World Aids Day Concert raises £2,214 for Lunch Positive

The annual World Aids Day fundraising concert, held on December 1 at St Mary’s Church, Kemptown, is renowned for the variety of its performances and the warm support of its audience.

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Photo: Rachael Williams @ Nick Ford Photography

 

2014’s concert, once again presented under the banner We All Live Together, was no exception and saw the Brighton Belles Women’s Chorus, Brighton Gay Men’s Chorus, Rainbow Chorus, Resound Male Voices and Qukulele join forces to deliver a musical evening to satisfy a wide spectrum of musical tastes.

Co-hosted by Rory Finn Smith (Chair of Trans Alliance and LGBT Liaison/Hate Crime Co-ordinator for Sussex Police) and Kathy Caton (presenter of Radio Reverb’s Out In Brighton), the event was supported by The Co-operative Funeral Care who donated the mulled wine and Nick Ford Photography who sponsored the printed programme.

As well as being the beneficiary, Lunch Positive also provided the mince pies and the concert was organised by Brighton Gay Men’s Chorus. All performers donated their time for free, which helped break the record for funds raised on the evening to a new high of £2,214.

Gary Pargeter
Gary Pargeter

Gary Pargeter, volunteer project manager at Lunch Positive said: “We’re overjoyed at the support from the choirs and music groups at this year’s World AIDS Day Concert. It means so much to have the support of so many groups and performers at this important event, and really proves that we are a community in togetherness.

“Our forthcoming year at Lunch Positive will be spent helping a growing number of people and aiming to reach people who do not easily access services. The proceeds from this year’s World AIDS Day concert will make a huge difference in all that we do. Thank you from our members and volunteers.”

To read more about the groups that performed in the World Aids Day Concert 2014, click here:

The next Worlds Aids Day Concert will be on December 1, 2015.

 

 

Hove sauna rebrands as ‘The Boiler Room’

The men’s sauna by the train station in Hove has seen many changes over the years, with service going from good to bad, to worse and then back again.

The Boiler Room

NOW it is back at the top of its game, providing a very friendly and inviting place to visit for people of all ages.

FOR the last 6 years it’s been called TBS2 Sauna, before that D2, and before that The Denmark.  The owners have now decided that TBS2 simply doesn’t trip off the tongue, and is hard to remember, so have now re-named it The Boiler Room.

The Boiler RoomThe Boiler Room has recently undergone many changes, including an improved food menu with fresher produce being introduced into the food on offer; it has had a good lick of paint, changes to some of the cruise rooms upstairs, expansion of the lounge area, a new sling added, and fairly soon they intend to replace all the lockers with brand new ones.

Owner Adam Bailey, said: The sauna has gone from strength to strength over the last 6 years, and is now far busier than ever before. In the old days of D2 hardly anything ever worked.  Our ethic of repairing everything as quickly as possible has restored customer confidence overall, and nowadays it’s very rare that something isn’t working. However, we still get the odd customer asking if everything is working when they come in.  Sometimes it is very hard to break people’s pessimism, which has been generated by very poor management in the past”.

WEB.300.40He added: “Above all, what makes this place really work is the friendly attitude of the staff.  It is often said of pubs and restaurants across Brighton and Hove that the staff are very rude, or just don’t seem to care.  Something that The Boiler Room take very seriously.

“Even more so the toilets; so many venues across the city have disgusting toilets, and then wonder why customers treat them so badly and make the problem worse.  The Boiler Room toilets are some of the cleanest you’ll find.

“What is probably the most remarkable attribute of this sauna is the warm atmosphere.  Many cruise venues in London and the South East have an ‘attitude’ about them.  This makes people think that everyone in there has an attitude. The lounge at The Boiler Room is a very friendly place to be, and for some of the older customers, this is just what they need. 

“It’s nice to still see a gay venue where people can all feel at one with each other, chat about nothing, catch up on the gossip, and generally have a good time without getting drunk.  Such a rare thing these days.

For more information, opening hours and prices, click here:

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